Every relationship has good and bad times, no matter how long you have been married. The pain from someone you care about may be very difficult to deal with. There are upsetting situations that can lead to more serious marriage problems. However successful couples have learned how to manage the hurdles, have skills to talk calmly on issues and can keep their love life going. We often have preconceived expectations of what marriages are supposed to be like, so don’t be fooled yourself into believing that married couples don’t face challenges.
Let’s get started with love and respect. They are counted as key elements in marriages. These characteristics generate the foundation for a healthy relationship. Have you noticed why relationships these days are not long lasting? It’s simply because both individuals lack respect for the other or the respect that was once present in the relationship is no longer there. Secondly most important factor in a relationship is Love. Love is care, commitment, responsibility, respect and trust. However, respect is made up of appreciation, communication, admiration, understanding and showing consideration.
In fact, if a woman feels loved she will likely respect her husband. And if a man feels respected, he will naturally show love to his wife. Women value love in the emotional sense. Men, however, crave respect. Couples who take time and establish a habit to find out what their partner wants or needs, finding out their inner world, their likes, dislikes, thoughts and feelings moreover do something to make their partner needs fulfill likely to continue happy marriage. Their practice of staying in touch protect their relationships. So many relationship challenges would be easier to deal with if we just take a moment to think about the respect we have for our partner and demonstrate that in our actions. If both are willing to put in the effort you can have a respectful relationship.
There are tons of other relationship problems as well which can affect you such as financial problems, trust problems, intimacy problems, affairs, stress and the most commonly reported problem is communication. When your communication freezes, you tend to create walls of stress and tension. Make regular and open communication. If one of us feels not satisfied with the relationship, we’ll tell each other what we must take steps to make it better, and together we will plan for change. Conversations can help both of you understand each other better, and help both of you bond better.
Speak respectfully to him even when you disagree. Show appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day, and show interest in each other. Be a good listener. Don’t put the subject on fire. Take the time to truly listen to your partner. Make an actual appointment with each other. Have active and engaged listening skills. It is your choice whether you react and how you react so learn to tolerate and appreciate differences.
Give a little, get a lot. Apologize when you’re wrong. Sure, it’s tough, but just try it and watch something wonderful you will see. If it comes to financial struggle never keep financial secrets from your partner. Money problems can start right before the marriage. They can stem but in the end, remember it’s only money and your relationship and commitment are more powerful than money. Plan as a financial team. Decide your goals as a couple and review them regularly. Don’t overreact when things go wrong. Learn to compromise. Have self-respect. Respect your partner’s boundaries. Give your partner space. Don’t take your partner for granted. Have complete trust that your partner “has your back” and you have theirs.
In some relationships maturity issues are also there. If you still relate to one another the same way you did when you first married, then grow up. Great relationships are supposed to mature over time. The more experience and maturity a couple develops in a marriage, the more success gained in managing and solving problems. Wives feel unsupported when their husbands don’t help them in house chores and when you or your spouse are unhappy about the allocation of household chores, the stress level in your home will increase tremendously. So, both should divide household chores with mutual discussions.
If there are trust issues in your marriage you can take steps to rebuild trust. Working through trust issues in your marriage requires patience for it takes time to build back trust. Don’t blame each other, this will never solve the problem. Instead, listen to each other and try to make things right. Create a practical plan on how you will deal with trust issues you face.